Carers please take note..

I am including my personal wishes on what I consider to be the way I would like to be cared for if I need care in the years ahead. Solicitors should try to incorporate the personal wishes of clients when they are making their wills and encourage clients to set out a personal plan for their care if they need it in the future. 

For example I like to get up early in the morning and have a bath every day, I like to cream my feet and body with body lotion. I like to stay in the bath for at least 15 minutes and soak up in its warmth. I like to wash my hair every day. 

I like a quiet morning with time to relax in the early hours. I would like activities that exercise my mind, like using a computer to write my poems or write my views. I like puzzles and to keep up with what is happening in the news. 

I would like carers to understand that I once was a young girl like them and that I was brought up to respect the elderly and listen to their wisdom. I would like to take an interest in the carer’s welfare and I would like to share my life stories with those who care for me. I would like to see happiness and love in the carers eyes and not resentment because I may wet myself or I may be incontinent of faeces. I would like to laugh and enjoy myself and be appreciated. I would like to be referred to as Mary and not as she.

I would like the carers to respect me and to remember that I am paying for my stay at the home and that once I too looked after elderly people and cared and loved them. I would like carers to love me with my slow walking and my active mind. I would like carers to remember that one day Mary could be themselves and what you sow you reap.

Happy person-centred care to all who care for the elderly.

Mary Carew